Ask Kate: I Want to Travel But My Boyfriend Doesn’t | Adventurous Kate
You are here:
/ Ask Kate: I Want to Travel But My Boyfriend Doesn’t
This week’s question is about relationships and how they fit into the context of long-term travel.
I thought I might just pop through a question.
I’m currently in a relationship and have been for over a year, but my heart is set on long term travel at the end of this year. I am definitely going to go- i’m not sure if he will come too though. I have mentioned it before, but I don’t want to push it. Only problem is that I feel very selfish for doing this. What would you do in this situation?
I think you already know the answer to this.
Most long-term travelers I know spent years dreaming, planning, and saving money before actually taking the plunge and leaving on their travels.
If your boyfriend isn’t doing any of those things now, less than a year before your departure date, when is he going to?
The fact that you’ve barely even discussed this with your boyfriend is pretty telling.
So that answers that question.
But is your relationship salvageable?
Keeping up a relationship when one partner is traveling long-term is an extremely difficult thing to do.
I would only recommend doing so if you have an exceptionally strong relationship, have phenomenal communication skills, and are planning a future together.
If you have a relationship like that, then by all means, go for it.
But if you’re not quite there, staying together will cause more pain in the long run.
My message to you: It is better to have a peaceful, amicable breakup now than a messy, drawn-out breakup while you’re thousands of miles apart.
Please don’t feel guilty — you’re not selfish.
You’re not married.
You don’t have kids.
Though things might be difficult in the beginning, everyone will heal from this.
You owe it to yourself to go after your dreams.
You don’t want to be on your deathbed thinking about the dream trip that slipped out from beneath your fingers.
I have the feeling that you wrote to me because part of you is ready to end your relationship with your boyfriend.
I give you permission.
Let this be your blessing.
Wishing you all the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.
Want Kate to answer your travel question?
Email kate [at] adventurouskate [dot] com and perhaps yours will be answered next week!
on Thursday, January 24, 2013 at 10:00 am&Filed under , ,
& Tagged with
I just wrote a similar post the other day, but regarding short term trips! I am always surprised at the number of my friends who won’t travel because their boyfriend can’t (read: won’t). Some of my best trips have been with friends, and if I didn’t have them I would most certainly go alone!
Speak Your Mind
Tell us what you're thinking...
and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a !
Follow Me!
Become a Fan!
Where am I?
Now based full-time in New York City!
August: Colombia
November-December: New Zealand
Top 10 Most Wanted Destinations
1. Galapagos Islands
2. New Zealand*
3. Northern Spain (Galicia, Asturias, Basque Country)
4. Western Australia
5. Florida Keys
6. Madagascar
7. Poland*
9. St. Lucia
10. Georgia
*Currently in the works
Recent Posts
Adventurous Kate contains affiliate links throughout the site. If you choose to purchase items through these links, I will earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. These commissions help reduce the costs of running this site. Thanks!Bus driver loses job over Facebook post about hungry student – Schools of Thought -
05:00 AM ET
Share this on:
(CNN) - Haralson County, Georgia, school bus driver Johnny Cook couldn't get the story out of his head: A middle school student told him he hadn't eaten, and had been turned away from the lunch line because he owed 40 cents. Cook , and the story spread.
Haralson County Superintendent Brett Stanton says it didn' the child would have been offered a bagged lunch, Stanton told , but he didn't go through the lunch line.
Cook says he still
the bus driver was fired after he refused to remove the Facebook post and apologize. "I'm proud that I was able to take a stand where others might not have been able to, and that I can maybe, in some little way, cause a change," Cook told WGCL.
It's not the first time a student has reported going without a meal because
in some cases, they've been told to dump the food they've selected and are given an alternative snack, such as cheese and juice. Middle school students in Attleboro, Massachusetts, were , and about 40 elementary students in Edgewood, Kentucky,
during state testing period because of overdrawn accounts, CNN affiliate WCPO reported.
How should schools handle kids whose lunch accounts are overdrawn? What's your school's policy? Share your experiences and ideas in the comments or on Twitter .
CNN’s Schools of Thought blog is a place for parents, educators and students to learn about and discuss what's happening in education. We're curious about what's happening before kindergarten, through college and beyond. Have a story to tell? Contact us at
Follow: @CNNSchools
Related: Student NewsCNN Student News is ten minutes of commercial-free, cost free news for middle and high school classrooms.
It is available on line on our website, as a free downloadable podcast on iTunes and on HLN at 4:00 a.m. ET weekdays during the school year.
on Twitter
Thanks for reaching out!
This high school's "Uptown Funk" video made
How can adults manage conversations with young kids about complicated issues? These lessons are tried and true.
RT : I went to a for-profit college and my degree is worthless
"Wasting time on the Internet" is now a college course. Good job! You're already earning an A!
Favorite Videos
Recent Posts
<nWidgetBaseURI = "http://i./cnn/.element/widget"; var cnn_sharebarconfig={"url":"http:\/\/n.com\/\/bus-driver-loses-job-over-school-lunch-facebook-post\/","analytics":"o","platform":"d","instances":2,"getUpdatedURL":"","plugincodes":{"facebook":"","googleplus":"","twitter":"}